Christmas in WV, 2009

In what is becoming a tradition, I spent Christmas with Jessica and the family in West Virgina. It was another great time, other than being sick before and during. I didn’t take any pictures this year so I’ll have to rely on the ones that Jessica has on facebook.

Highlights of this trip include:

  • The, apparently recession-proof, pile of presents
  • “I don’t even USE my iPod any more!!”
  • “Cam, do you have any questions?” … “Yeah, when are you going to shut up already?”
  • “Doink ‘im on the head”
  • The Rand McNally Road Atlas and thong underwear
  • The doggie door
  • Losing scrabble by ONLY 50 points
  • “Hey Aunt Sharon – I call this move the Figure Skater”

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Why I don’t … New Years Resolutions

I don’t do New Years resolutions, here’s why.

1. Tying an action to an arbitrary start date is a bad idea. If you really want to change something, you should change it as fast as possible. If you pick an arbitrary date to start a change, you’re pretty well sunk as you’ve given yourself an excuse to put it off. If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing as soon as you recognize what you need to do.

2. Resolutions aren’t goals. I’ve heard a bunch of resolutions that sound something like this: “my resolution is to lose weight” or “my resolution is to read more”. The problem is that that doesn’t really mean anything. How much weight? How many, or which books? Resolutions like that aren’t goals, they’re just statements. If you really want to make something happen, you need be clear about what exactly you want to accomplish.

3. It’s not about the start, it’s about the end. If you have a goal (instead of just a resolution) you also need a deadline. Anyone can choose a date in the future to start something, but it’s hard to pick a date in the future when you’ll be done with it. This is the key problem with New Years resolutions. Unless you set a date for when you’ll accomplish your goal, you’ll slip easily. It doesn’t matter when you start, so long as you reach the end.

That being said, it’s also possible to ‘resolve’ that a certain year, say 2010 – 2011 will “the year of (whatever).” Maybe 2010 will be the year of getting organized, or losing weight or getting back to your art or whatever. But… that is just a focus area. It won’t mean anything if you don’t set goals within that focus area.

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No More Mr. “Nice” Guy

“Nice” sucks. “Cool” is pretty lame too.

Of course you should be pleasant or cordial or appropriate or whatever the situation calls for, but when you describe it, avoid “nice”.

“Nice” is where our vocabularies go to die. “Nice” is the fastest way to turn a superlative experience bland.

“nice” : mindless :: [coming up with a word that actually describes the thing you're talking about] : mindful

This also applies to “cool” and “interesting”.

When you find yourself ready to say “nice” or “cool” or “interesting”, stop (or rewind if you have), and consider another word. Consider a word which truly describes the sentiment you’re trying to express.

(Or a word that kinda describes it)

(Or, sh*t, just make a word up and see where it takes you – it’s a perfectly cromulent option.)

It’s surprising how much more engaged the person you’re talking to becomes when we don’t fall back to tired, meaningless words.

Have a nice meaningful day!

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Thanksgiving and Decibels

90dB – Traffic on a busy roadway at 10 m

100 dB – Jack hammer at 1 m

130 dB – Threshold of pain

150 dB – Jet engine at 30 m

200 dB – The volume at which my grandparents watch televison

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My Case For and Against Hate Crime Laws

Yesterday, the senate passed the Local Law Enforcement Hate Crimes Prevention Act. There’s been a bunch of controversy around this bill, but most of the opinion around it seems terribly uninformed. I believe the are cases for, and against, hate crimes legislation, but before that, it’s important to clear up the biggest myths about hate crimes laws.

Myth: Hate crime laws create ’special’ protected classes.

Fact: Every aspect of the act covers every person in the U.S.

As written in the act, no specific group is protected. There is no mention of the word gay, black, Asian, female, Jewish, etc. anywhere in the act. The act provides provisions for offenses involving *classes* of personal attributes:

(1) OFFENSES INVOLVING ACTUAL OR PERCEIVED RACE, COLOR, RELIGION, OR NATIONAL ORIGIN- Whoever, whether or not acting under color of law, willfully causes bodily injury to any person or, through the use of fire, a firearm, a dangerous weapon, or an explosive or incendiary device, attempts to cause bodily injury to any person, because of the actual or perceived race, color, religion, or national origin of any person – [it then outlines the specific punishments associated with the crime]

(2) OFFENSES INVOLVING ACTUAL OR PERCEIVED RELIGION, NATIONAL ORIGIN, GENDER, SEXUAL ORIENTATION, GENDER IDENTITY, OR DISABILITY-

‘(A) IN GENERAL- Whoever, whether or not acting under color of law, in any circumstance described in subparagraph (B), willfully causes bodily injury to any person or, through the use of fire, a firearm, a dangerouse weapon, or an explosive or incendiary device, attempts to cause bodily injury to any person, because of the actual or perceived religion, national origin, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity, or disability of any person – [it then outlines the specific punishments associated with the crime]

Everyone has a race, color, religion (or lack of), sexual orientation, gender, national origin and so on. Everyone is protected by this act, if the crime committed is motivated by the characteristic provided for in the act. It doesn’t matter who the victim and assailants are. If the motivation of assailant includes the victim’s race, color, religion, etc. the assailant is subject to the provisions of this act.

If a gay man attacks a Christian woman, because she is Christian, or a woman, he is subject to the punishment for the attack, and the punishments in this act.

If a gay man attacks a Christian woman, without concern for her gender or religion, he is subject to the punishment for the attack alone.

This applies to any combination of assailant and victim – white on black, white on white, Jew on Muslim, Native American on lesbian, and so on – so long as the crime is motivated by a characteristic covered by the act.

It’s also important to remember that this act is not new. Only the provisions of sexual orientation and gender identity are new. The provisions of these laws have covered the other characteristics for some time now. It’s fairly transparent that opponents of this specific bill are concerned not about hate crimes in general, but against the provisions for sexual orientation and gender identity. This leads to the other big myth that I’ve heard.

Myth: The act makes people subject to “thought crimes.”

Fact: The only provides punishment for a person who “…willfully causes bodily injury…” or using a weapon “…attempts to cause bodily injury…”.

The bill doesn’t provide any form of punishment unless there is an associated act of bodily injury. It calls into question the motivation of the act, and can provide for additional punishment, beyond the punishment of the act alone, based on that motivation. The bill (as I read it) also provides clarification in subsection (e) that requires the evidence of hate is expressed in that particular offense:

(e) Rule of Evidence- In a prosecution for an offense under this section, evidence of expression or associations of the defendant may not be introduced as substantive evidence at trial, unless the evidence specifically relates to that offense…

So if you spent the day protesting the St. Patrick’s day parade, and later that night you kill someone robbing your house who is Irish, you should not be subject to the hate crime law unless it can be proved that during the act of killing the robber you were also expressing your hate for Irish people, and would not be evidenced by your protest earlier alone.

This question of motivation leads to my case for and against.

My Case FOR Hate Crimes Laws

Different crimes are different, and individual crimes are not black or white. Stealing candy and murdering someone are not the same crime, and deserve different punishments.

All murders are not the same crime either. That is acknowledged by the fact that we have statutes that cover degrees of murder. Killing someone because you ran off the road while texting someone on your cellphone is a different crime than hunting someone down for the pleasure of killing them.

In both cases you’ve killed a person, but it would be hard to argue that the driver is as big a threat to society as the pathological murderer. As such, the punishment should be different, both for the sake of the criminal and for society’s well being.

With that foundation, I can see an argument for hate crimes laws. If you are a person who is more likely to assault a Muslim because you generally hate Muslims, then you are arguably a greater threat to society than if you’re likely assault someone because they, say, accidentally stepped on your foot, regardless of their religion.

Society is better off when you can walk down the street, minding your own business, and not be in fear of bodily harm simply because of the characteristics that make you who you are. If hate crimes laws make that more possible, then I can certainly see their place.

My Case AGAINST Hate Crimes Laws

I can see two very reasonable arguments against hate crimes laws.

The first is the question of establishing motivation. People hurt other people for all kinds of reasons and knowing why they hurt each other is not always readily apparent.

There is no clear, objective statement in the act for what constitutes the motivation required for prosecution under the act. It would be pretty impossible to write such a statement. The act establishes only this:

(1) [The Attorney General or other officer with the certification required] has reasonable cause to believe that the actual or perceived race, color, religion, national origin, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity, or disability of any person was a motivating factor underlying the alleged conduct of the defendant…

If motivation is difficult to establish and potentially highly subjective, and establishing it is key to establishing a punishment that will affect the assailant – it has the potential for mistakes and those should be avoided.

The second question is one of prevention and retribution. Different crimes are different, and there are at least two reasons why their associated punishment is different. A stiff penalty provides proportional retribution to the victim more than small penalty. A stiff penalty should also provide an inversely proportional incentive for committing a bigger crime. That is…

The fine for speeding is $100 because we don’t want people to speed. The fine for DWI is jail, money and losing your license because we REALLY don’t want people to drive drunk. (Even if their caught doing it without having done something that immediately harmed another person).

When I look at a hate crimes law I ask myself about this question of prevention and retribution. Are the victims of hate crimes, or society, better off because their assailants spend more time in jail? The “FOR” argument assumes that at least society is. If you can assume that you’ve passed the hurdle for establishing motivation, then sure, society is better off with someone who’s motivated to harm people based on hate in jail. But… I don’t have any evidence to say that that is true.

What I also don’t see any evidence for is the case of prevention. Are people who commit hate crimes less likely to commit the crime because they know that the penalty could be more severe? I don’t know if there is any evidence for this specifically, and I’d guess that such evidence doesn’t exist. I imagine that hate crimes happen out of a spark of passion that circumvents the same reasoning required to determine that the punishment is not worth it.

I also look at the arguments against the death penalty which cite data that suggests that knowing you could be killed as a result of your crime is not a significant enough demotivator to prevent someone from committing a crime they would have otherwise.

If that establishes that the degree of the penalty is not enough to prevent the crime over and above the established penalty, the goal of prevention isn’t met. If the goal of prevention isn’t met, and the question of retribution is also not evidenced, then what value would the law have?

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What I’ve been up to recently

I’ve put up some unintentionally cryptic tweets / facbook status updates, so I figured I’d update everyone on what I’m up to at the moment.

Between leaving IBM and now a whole lot has gone on. I’ve interviewed with about 10 companies and haven’t found the right fit yet. Because I’ve had relatively low expenses and a decent emergency fund / severance I’ve been taking my time to find something that I’m really passionate about.

Recently I decided that I wanted to give myself a kick to get out of North Carolina, so I made it happen. I put my place up on Craigslist and had quite a bit of interest, but nothing materialized right away. Then I got a note from a couple who were interested if another deal they had fell through. This is where things started to get kinetic.

They decided they wanted the place on Monday 29 June, and wanted to move in on Thursday 2 July. Back to Craigslist I turned and sold off most of my stuff. From Monday to Wednesday I got rid of most of the things in my house worth selling through Craigslist. The rest went to Goodwill (3 full carloads worth). Those of you who know me well will know how freeing a feeling it was to get rid of all that extra stuff.

I was so lucky to have my friend Jessica visiting to help out. She was a dynamo helping to get things packed up.

On Thursday the tenants showed up at noon. Between noon and 4pm Jessica and I packed the car, got the leases signed, did some last minute fix-ups on the house, took showers at the neighbors and drove up to Long Island.

I was also lucky to find time during this whirlwind to say goodbye to some of my good friends in NC. The whole move was much faster than I had hoped it would be, but I’m also not completely divorced from the area, so I’ll surely be back for visits. Some of you might ask what happened to the cats? They are hanging out with my excellent neighbor Christine, who will watch them while I’m sorting out my next move.

A few hours of playing with her kids later I turned up at my uncle’s in Oceanside, dropped off my stuff, drove upstate to see my aunt for her annual 4th of July party and then back down.

So now I’m here in Long Island. I’m hanging out just a 40 minute train ride to NYC so I can interview with companies there. I’m still considering options in California, but I figured that while I’m sorting out what’s next it’s best to be close to friends and family here in NY.

While I’m here I’ll be interviewing, spending time with friends and family, and hanging out on the beach and boardwalk at Long Beach. I forgot how lovely a place it is. If you’re in town and want to hang out, let me know!

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Line of the week

Line of the week – @jimnorton on O&A yesterday: They just released an app for the iPhone that makes call quality great – it’s called the Verizon app.

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It had to happen some time…

I’ve seen all kinds of gross shit on the internet, but today I came across (thanks to my cousin who posted it in her IM status) a video that I dared not watch. I saw the first few frames, had a good idea where it was going and shut it off.

Then I googled the title and found out that, indeed, it was exactly what I had expected it would be. Part of me wants to watch it and say “it’s just a video”, but the rest of me knows that it’s totally gross.

I wasn’t sure what my limit was, but apparently teh internets found it.

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Christmas in WV, 2008

I spent Christmas in WV with Jessica and the family again this year. It was another wonderful, relaxing time. I’ve taken some photos and videos… take a look at the Flickr photoset

Christmas 2008 Wii Tennis Chillin' with Julie Hanging out Drew plays with his squishy doughnut

Highlights of the trip include:

  • The Shamwow!
  • “I’m not overeating during the holidays, I’m carbo loading for the new year”
  • Todd drops the C-bomb and still looses at Scrabble
  • “Tomato”
  • “You will NOT ruin this trip for me”
  • The Nazi golf swing
  • The 5 hour ball tower
  • “He’s not peeing, he’s getting an erection”

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The 2008 Holiday Card

After much stress and deliberation, I managed to finish the 2008 holiday card in time to send it out. Here it is…

The 2008 Holiday Card

(take a look at a larger version)

23 Dec 2008 – Glenn in Sydney got the card, so it’s safe to say that everyone has. This year’s card was a frustrating experience. Last year’s would have been hard to top so it instantly stressed me out.

I debated all kinds of themes, but kept falling short and part way in went into a full blown identity crisis for a few hours. I had an idea that involved the cats, but they are less willing photo models than I would have hoped, and I also didn’t want to be “that guy with the cat card”.

The idea for this year’s card came to me out of the blue, in bed, at 5am. I woke up from a (unrelated) dream that I can’t seem to remember now and thought to myself “Santa’s Facebook Page”.

Unfortunately, it’s kind of an inside joke that only people who use Facebook will really get, but so far the reviews have been positive.

Now it’s time to start thinking about next year’s card!

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